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Cultural Couture | Lucky Wedding Day Foods

I love food! And I love the amazing dishes that often show up at weddings, especially cultural ones. Little known fact to most guest, these foods can often have symbolism of their own. Be it incorporated into the ceremony itself, or just served at the reception, food adds additional elements of intrigue to the wedding planning process. I recently found this article on “Lucky Wedding Foods” posted by Fox News. Enjoy!


Brides and grooms hoping to add some good fortune to their marriages have some interesting options when planning a wedding feast.

Many cultures around the globe have identified foods for newlyweds that supposedly will bring good luck, fertility or other blessings.

The foods range from fried crickets to candied almonds to fish.

Attaching symbolism to food is a common practice throughout the world, said Amy Bentley, associate professor of food studies at New York University.

“All rituals and holidays and celebrations involve food,” she said. “This is somewhat universal.”

In Mexico, brides and grooms sometimes dine on fried crickets, lentil soup, and a bean, rice and agave dish, said Beatriz Mejia, director of celebrations at One and Only Palmilla resort in Los Cabos, Mexico. The crickets and the rice dish are said to bring fertility and good luck, and the soup is associated with good luck and good fortune, she said.

The resort has seen growing interest from couples outside of Mexico in the foods and traditions of the region, she said.

“Couples today are seeking a more personalized and authentic experience when they host a destination wedding that is reflected in both the food and venue,” she said.

Brides and grooms discussing their celebrations on the wedding website TheKnot.com also seem more interested than before in incorporating traditional elements into their plans, said Rebecca Dolgin, an executive editor for the site. “Couples reaching into their own culture is more popular now,” she said. “Incorporating culture is creating a buzz on the message boards.”

Often, foods are considered lucky because of shape, color or taste, Dolgin explained.

Italians serve almonds at weddings because their bittersweet taste represents life, she said. The almonds are sugarcoated to wish the couple more sweetness than bitterness.

Common at a Chinese wedding is whole fish, because the Chinese word for fish sounds similar to the word for abundance, Dolgin said.

“The Chinese also believe that eating spring rolls will bring wealth and prosperity,” she said. “Due to its color and size, it is also thought to resemble gold bars.”

Moroccan couples also eat fish because it’s an ancient symbol of fertility, she said.

Fish appears on the menu at many weddings, added Pam Frese, a professor of anthropology at the College of Wooster in Ohio. Fish and other white meats, such as turkey and chicken, are common wedding foods because of old beliefs that women had whiter blood than men, she said. White meats were thought to strengthen women’s blood, so they were served at weddings to energize the bride.

“It was extra strength to her on her wedding night so she can become a mother,” Frese said.

In Caribbean countries, special attention is paid to the groom’s sexual performance on the wedding night, said Caitlin Austin, a spokeswoman for Grace Bay Club in the Turks and Caicos. Grooms are encouraged to eat the pistil of a conch “to increase their drive,” she said. “The conch’s pistil is viewed by locals as nature’s Viagra.”

Conch meat also is commonly served to wedding guests because islanders believe it’s an aphrodisiac, she said.

Wedding cake, one of the oldest elements of a wedding banquet, also has connections to luck and fertility. “The traditionally accepted practice is for the bride to have the first bite; otherwise, she’d be childless and barren,” Dolgin said.

Early English cakes were fruit cakes, and brides used to count the number of raisins in their piece of cake to see how many children they would bear, Frese said.

“The cake has power,” she said. “It promises reproductivity.”

Wedding cakes changed in texture and appearance in the 1920s, when lighter cakes with fluffy, creamy frosting became more popular. But the symbolism remained, Dolgin said. The white cake represented the bride’s purity. The decorations of flowers and other signs of spring are meant to represent birth and new life, she said.

“It’s this little bubble of nature in the middle of a wedding,” Frese said. “It’s the promise of fertility that’s embedded in spring.”

So what are you incorporating into your day?


 

Bridal Couture | Sparkly Eye Candy


Ok, so many of you have not met me in person yet, but you’re starting to pick up on my style and flair for life. Since you’ve been reading, you know I am a sucker for beautiful things, and jewelry is no exception. It is probably the sweetest thing on your wedding day. Be it your engagement ring, wedding band, earrings or any other accessory you’ve added to sparkle on your day, I © (heart) jewelry. J So I was overjoyed to find a fabulous article from my friend Saman, at Inspirational Laddu. Of course, being visually stimulated myself, I went on a hunt for stunning jewelry to show you along with her tips on selecting the perfect bridal collection. While Saman’s focus is helping South Asian brides, her tips are cross cultural!


1. Decide What You Can Afford

It always helps to fix the budget in advance. The amount you pay for a piece of jewelry will include two factors. The first is the price of the actual gold and gems and the second is the making; design and the craftsmanship. Reputable stores and jewelers will always offer a buy-back guarantee, which you should insist on.

2. First Things First

It’s important to get your jewelry shopping out of the way before anything else. It’s a pretty straightforward concept that its easier to get your outfit made to complement your jewelry rather than the other way round. (I’d pick a ready-made jewelry design any day, over a ready-made wedding outfit).  In fact most designers prefer to take a look at your jewelry before they start work on your clothes.

3. Do Your Homework

Before buying your jewelry set/s make sure to go through the leading fashion and wedding magazines and websites, as well as your friends’ and relatives’ wedding pictures so that you have an idea of what’s out there and what you’re partial to. Jewelry pieces and styles often look very different in displays than they do worn on people. Pick out your favorite styles by pulling out pages, photocopying or taking print outs from websites so that you’re certain of your likes and dislikes.

4. Find a Trusted Jeweler

With the central role that jewelry playing in the lives of desi women, chances are that your mother, grandmother or aunt will already have a reliable jeweler that they have been going to for years. In that case, stick with him (your mom probably knows best). If, however, you don’t have such resources at hand, I would suggest going for a known jeweler with an excellent, long-standing reputation. The value of jewelry, especially gold and stones is something that can only be identified by a trusted expert. With all the money you’re going to be spending on your wedding, the last thing you want is to end up buying jewelry that’s not worth what you spent on it.

It may be fashionable to buy your jewelry from hip, new “designers”, however, just because a designer tells you a piece is 18K gold and the diamonds are top quality, doesn’t necessarily mean they are. Less scrupulous sellers may put a high karat mark on a low-karat piece; a practice called under-karating. ALWAYS get your jewelry appraised to make sure you’re getting what you paid for.

5. Select the Design

The decision between traditional and modern designs can be a tough one. Many brides get the best of both worlds by going for something traditional on their shaadi and something modern on their valima. Either way, choose designs that are elegant and timeless. Contemporary designs can be beautiful, but its no good if ‘contemporary’ means fashionable only till next summer.

All women want to wear unique jewelry, especially on their wedding day. Many jewelry stores guarantee the exclusivity of their designs, which is something you should be aware about before you make the purchase. There is no harm is asking women whose style you admire for their recommendations. Recent brides who have been through the process will be able to refer you to reliable jewelers and stylish designs.

6. Love Your Set

It may be tempting to go all out and buy the biggest, flashiest set because it’s your wedding jewelry after all. But let’s be practical here, you don’t want to spend all that money and then have your jewelry sitting pretty in a locker because its way too huge and flamboyant to be appropriate for anything other than your own wedding. That’s not to say that you should only select subtle minute pieces, of course not. Just think of the jewelry beyond the context of just the wedding. You should love, love, LOVEE your wedding jewelry to the extent that you see yourself wearing it at other occasions for years to come; it is your wedding jewelry after all.

7. Mix and Match

South Asian brides get to wear multitude of different pieces of jewelry on their wedding; earrings, bangles, necklaces (yes multiple at times), a teeka, jhoomar, and even a nath. However, it’s important not to go overboard piling on too many pieces all at once; you want to look glamorous, not tacky. And remember not everything you wear has to be matched to perfection. Choose pieces that look extraordinary together but can also be worn separately and look fabulous. It isn’t essential for everything to match, just for all elements should work in harmony with your outfit and complement it. If you can see yourself wearing your wedding jewelry separately and at several different types of occasions then you have done a great job.

8. Vintage vs. Vogue

There’s not much I can say about wearing vintage jewelry. If you’re lucky enough to have your mother or grandmother’s jewelry then what better time to wear it than on your own wedding day. The emotional connection and feeling that comes from wearing pieces that are linked to your history can’t really be put into words, so I’m not even going to try. What I can talk about is your options in case your inherited jewels don’t match up to your tastes. One option is to mix up new and old pieces, to give them a more up-to-date look. Or if you aren’t particularly attached you other option, is to sell the pieces (to a trusted jeweler) in exchange for something more to your liking, that you will love and wear often.

One item Saman didn’t touch on with vintage jewelry is to repurpose your jewelry. If it was once your mother, his mother or grandmother’s heavy necklace, speak with your jeweler about refashioning. Have him take parts of the original piece and create a new one that fits your style and wardrobe. Create a new tikka or cuff bracelet! Using pieces of their jewelry will be more meaningful to you and still make them happy!

Sorry ladies, I did focus a little more on the South Asian jewelry as well, but many of these items could certainly be adapted by the bold and beautiful bride. And there are many equally beautiful designs that are simpler! Let me know how you’re selecting your jewelry and how your hunt for the perfect pieces goes!!!


 

Reception Couture | Sweet Endings . . . The Scoop on Candy Stations

What week of sweets would be complete without the temptations of the sweets stations, or candy bars/buffets, etc. This trend has been around for a while, but certainly continues to have a strong foot hold. What adult doesn’t instantly turn into a kid at the sight of delectable and amazing childhood favorites? M&M’s, Reese’s Pieces, and anything dipped in chocolate are at the top of my list! There are so many options that can be incorporated into your display to make it spectacular, how can you ever decided? Whether you hire a team to put it all together, or do it yourself, there are some keys to keep in mind when designing your table.

Creating an environment of fun and splashing a dose of your wedding colors into the display are a MUST! Don’t let your table end up bitter sweet and cheesy!

Here are a few tips to get it together and satisfy the eye as well as the tummy:

Eye Candy :: COLOR PALETTE

Fabulous starts with color! You started planning your wedding with a color scheme in mind, and if it didn’t start that way, it certainly has developed by now. Your sweet beginnings deserve a sweet ending, and the candy buffet is a perfect way to display a bit of color creativity! Incorporate the color scheme is easy when using non-wrapped candies. Rock candy, M&Ms, Jordan almonds, and a variety of other delicious treats can be custom ordered or picked up at bulk candy stores to create your display. But keep in mind that too many colors can be problematic.


(This candy buffet is a classic. Creative layering of candy makes a striking display. The continuity of this color scheme makes it visually pleasing.)

Easy Access ::

VASE SIZE

2. Vase size is important if you want your guest to actually get to the candy! Using large, wide mouth glass container allows guest to see what there are getting, while allowing them to easily scoop candy. Variety in vase size and shape also keeps the eye engaged and the display interesting. Even if you use all the same shape, add layers and height with additional boxes to create a great display.


(Pretty in Pink! Easy Access! The wide mouth glass goblet makes scooping easy and the staggered height makes this bar one of a kind.)

3. Many containers come with lids, but this often leads to broken glass and missing pieces. If you love the lids, I suggest presenting your display with the lids in tack (pictured above), but remove and store them away the moment the candy station is opened. Keep the kids out of the candy until after dinner! J


(This candy bar is bitter sweet. Thumbs down – lack of decorative elements, the pink plastic & small containers.)

SCOOPS

4. Don’t forget the scoops or tongs. Ice cream scoops work well for jelly beans, M&M’s or other small candies but small candy scoops will certainly do the trick.

5. A single scoop per container.

6. Neatly label your container, either on the container or beside the container. Your guest’s wants to know what sweetness awaits them in the pretty display. And you avoid allergy issues this way too!!


(Visual perfection! All the keys to a great table! A jewel tone color palette, staggering heights, wide mouth containers with distinguished lables. An easy DIY for any bride!)

7. Using a round table is a fantastic alternative to the standard buffet type display! It allows guest to mingle around the bar and eliminates the long line.


(I love the colorfulness of this bar. While there are a ton of options, perhaps too many, the colors palette is well coordinated and festive. The splashes of color from the napkins and ribbons also dress up this table!)

Creative Control ::

TABLE DECOR

8. Don’t forget to personalize your bar. Pictures of the bride and groom as kids, small digital photo frame, custom container labels and bags makes a candy station to remember.

9. Decorate your table with other elements to spice things up (i.e. fabric, napkins, crystals, flowers, pictures, etc).

10. Find creative carry away pails or small baggies for the candy in your colors.

CANDY SELECTION

10. Make sure you have a sensible amount of candy on the table. Too much candy will clutter the table and too little candy will make the table look bare.

11. Search the candy aisle for the perfect candy. Look for interesting shapes, textures, flavors, etc.


(Visual display is just as appealing at the candy itself. Remember anything is game!)

12. Search the Internet for nostalgic candies, ie the candy canes above or the popcorn below.


(Try gourmet popcorn in glass containers. From caramel to cheddar cheese, give your table a little “pop”.)

Don’t Stop ’til You Get Enough! :: Supply & Demand

13. Get someone to manage the bar; either your planner or a family member can keep the bar neat and stocked with candy.

14. Have your photographer take pictures of the bar before your guest begin to sample. That way you get to see all the hard work you put into your beautiful display before its gobbled up!

Love the look but don’t have the time/creativity? Contact me and get stellar without the stress.

 

Cultural Couture | As Sweet as Honey – Sofreh Aghd

Cultural Celebration Tuesday’s are always my favorite day of the week. As I am continually expanding and exploring new cultural wedding ritual and customs, I get very excited when I find beautiful images to share with you of modern weddings! Today’s gem is just a glimpse into the intricacies of Persian and Iranian weddings, which I am looking forward to helping my brides plan. As this week is all about “sweetness” and “sweets” I want to highlight sweet moments from the Sofreh Aghd, the traditional Persian wedding ceremony.

During the service and the readings, married female relatives of the couple hold over the couple’s head a white silky Ghand cloth. Two pieces of crystallized sugar called Kalleh Ghand shaped like cones are rubbed together, showering the couple with white powder. This symbolic act is meant to sweeten the couple’s life.

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Here are a couple beautiful images I found demonstrating the Kalleh Ghand!




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Once the couple is pronounced husband and wife, the Officiant asks for God’s blessing to be with the couple in their lives together. The bride and groom exchange rings and kiss. At this point, the honey is also presented to the happy couple. Here, the groom dips his finger into the honey and gives some to the bride. She does the same in turn and they are ensured a sweet and happy life together.


A cup or a glass of honey to sweeten life. Immediately after the couple is married they each should dip one pinky finger in the cup of honey and feed it to the other one.  I find this part of the ceremony to be super sexy (as marriage should always be)!


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I agree with Katie Martin, from Elegance and Simplicity, the honey ceremony is most definitely one of the sexiest moments of any wedding I’ve ever seen!

The legal documents are signed by the couple and the witnesses and the wedding party hands out sweets, and pastries from the sofreh to the guests. Items from the sofreh are always thought to be blessed and bring good luck and great fortune. Bride and groom give each other more sweets such as sweet almonds and nuts. They may then proceed to light the candles on either side of the mirror, one for the bride and one for the groom to symbolize light in their new life.

An assortment of sweets and pastries to be shared with the guests after the ceremony.  The assortment usually includes: Sugar coated almond strips “Noghl”, Baklava, Mulberry-almond paste made in the shape of mulberries “Tout”, Rice-flour cookies “Noon-Berenji”, Chickpea-flour cookies “Noon-Nokhodchi”, Almond-flour cookies “Noon-Baadoomi” and Honey roasted almonds “Sohaan A’sali”.


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I CAN’T wait to get started planning with my brides! I fell head over heels today with this ceremony and will be sharing more with you soon!


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