The process of preparing for your wedding could be so much more fun when you have a gang of enthusiastic friends by your side who are eager to lend their services. It definitely helps to have readily available hands to fold those myriads of invitations or pull off all those detail-oriented, time consuming DIY projects. But brides, be careful not to take advantage of your friends’ generosity too much. You’d be surprised how many times I’ve seen friendships take a strain during these times because the brides were getting too carried away and taking their families and close friends’ efforts for granted. Here are some tips you can consider in asking your friends for help in your wedding preparations.
So . . . IF you decide to get your friends involved
Make sure . . .
1) the person you want to ask for help is someone that you had kept in touch with within the past two years. If you know that you’re probably not going to contact them much after the wedding, then it’s also probably best not to call them just to ask for a favor, even if that person’s talents/services could save you a lot of money.
2) you ask for their help plenty of time in advance. This shows that you have thought this out carefully and consider them best for the job. I would say one month prior to the wedding is the absolute latest you should ask.
3) you are communicating the job descriptions clearly. Please don’t just say “I need your help” without supplying specific guidelines and expect your friends to know what you want. The more you communicate, the more it will also help them acquire a sense of ownership to their responsibilities and produce better outcome.
4) you do have plans to show appreciations for their help. Thank you cards, gifts, or thank you get together after the wedding… You can discuss this with your fiancé for ideas and include this to your budget.
Your friends are a major factor in your support network as leading up to your wedding. And just like on facebook, we’d like to be your friend. Whether you know exactly what you want, but don’t have the resources to get it, or aren’t sure where to begin at all, it’s alright! Together we can hand select your team of wedding professionals are there to take care of every little detail so you and your friends can enjoy the day together. You want your friends to enjoy the champagne breakfast with you as you are getting ready on your wedding morning, don’t you? We want to your friend (I’ve even hear best friend), your guide, your mentor, and often shoulder to cry on, and we’ll take over the hard work!
Just a few thoughts . . . what’s your experience having friends assist you on your wedding day. Good or Bad?
